Sunday, June 21, 2015

Matching Grant

I have been having a rough few weeks emotionally. 
The "situations" of birth mothers have slowed down, almost to a standstill. 
I often go up to the room we have converted to baby H's room and just stand and look. 
I see the crib we picked out. I see the sweet little baby girl and baby boy shoe's that we placed inside the crib during the "wait". 
I want to take A & E shopping so they can get the baby something and connect deeper. 
I've been growing a little impatient, and honestly a little irritated, every week that passes and we are another week further into the process and still waiting.

Then last week, a few people stopped and looked me in the eyes. 
You know, the ones who can read you well. 
And they asked how I was doing. 
It was good to express that some hope has felt lost. 
That I never knew the ups & downs of this journey. 
I didn't think we would be the ones who would be stuck in the "wait". 

Then during the course of the rest of the week, I got multiple random texts from people I love dearly. 
I almost wanted to say "Did my husband tell you to text me?" But I knew that even though that's something he would do, this was the Lord. 


One in particular was my sweet friend & fellow pastor wife, Jenny. She texted me while I was out of town for work last week and asked if could FaceTime for a minute. When I did, I got the pleasure of seeing her living room filled with her middle school girls who were preparing a drive-thru coffee & baked goods fundraiser for us. 
US. 
People they have never met. 
A baby they can't tangibly see. 
A lady that their sweet pastors wife simply asked them to love on. 
And I fell to pieces after I facetimed and realized that this is SO much bigger that me! 
These girls are BEING the gospel. 
I mean, seriously, how sweet are they?! 





Within almost an hour of facetiming this middle school small group, my husband sent me a text that said "So we got a $5000 match?" Now, I was at a work event and wasn't on my email much that day, so I hadn't received the news yet! 


Isn't it just like the Lord to take my mully grubbing, loathing and doubting self ... and turn it into a small group of middle school world changers, a phone filled with encouraging texts, friends speaking life to me, and an organization approving us for a $5,000 match?!!!! 

I know that we don't have a birth mom or baby in sight. 
Literally, it feel like a million months away. 
But I am trusting that He is working ALL things for the good of our family. 
Because we love Him. 
And we entered this process trusting. 
And that's how we will walk through it. 
And that's how we will finish it!

Regarding the Matching Grant: 
Hand In Hand Christian Adoption, Inc has approved us for a matching grant up to $5000. 
All donations through this grant are tax deductible. 
If we are so blessed to get over the $5,000, the donations will still be tax deductible for you and we are able to accept donations all way until July 28th, 2015. 
** Checks cannot be made out to us. 
They must be made out to Hand In Hand Christian Adoption** 
The envelope must be addressed this specific way, in order for us to get credit. 

Hand In Hand Christian Adoptions, Inc
James Cory & Joy Henderson
18318 Mimosa Court
Gardner, KS 66030



No gift is too small. Every donation will be dollar for dollar matched! Please pray about giving and helping us to be a step closer to bringing home the perfect baby for us. 

Feel free to call or email with any questions that you have. We would be more than happy to talk to you :) 

-Cory, Joy, Autumn, Easton
#bringhomebabyhenderson

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

FAQ. Updated.

Frequently Asked Questions

WHERE 
Where are you adopting from?
We are doing a domestic adoption, so our birth mom could be from anywhere in the US.
Most situations we have seen have been from Florida though. 
Go figure :)  

WHEN
When will you have Baby Henderson?
The average time our agency says is 6-10 months. 
We officially began in February, 
so we are praying for a baby by the end of summer! 

COST
How much does adoption cost?
Our financial needs for this adoption will be around $40,000. 
This is a lot of money to raise fast! 
This is a quick adoption process and we have to raise all 
of our funds before we bring our baby home! 
Please consider helping our family in any way you can. 
Read a blog from our consultant here in regards to adoption costs. 

HOW
How can I help? 
Attend An Event.
May 26th
Texas Roadhouse
Ten Percent Tuesday
400 Columbiana Drive
10% of your entire bill will go to #bringhomebabyhenderson
*Get a flier from us before or that night at the event *
May 29th 
Bingo, Team Trivia & Silent Auction 
2700 Bush River Road 
Columbia, SC 29210
Bingo from 5-7 $1 a card. Winner of each round will go into a drawing for a Flat Panel TV. 
Team Trivia: 7-9 $10 person/ 4 people per team / 10 Rounds. Winners get Best Buy Gift Cards
Silent Auction: 6-8 going on simultaneously to Games in Foyer. Winners announced at 8PM .
May T-Shirt Campaign
100% of proceeds from our Big Cartel Shop goes straight into the adoption fund. 
We would like someone from each state representing us by wearing our 
#Bringhomebabyhenderson shirts designed specifically for us. 
www.bringhomebabyhenderson.bigcartel.com
Go Fund Me
This is just a simple and easy site to donate. 
This is actually where we will keep our entire donations updated, whether online or off. 
Send a check. 
(Please make checks payable to Cory or Joy Henderson) 
Cory Henderson
2700 Bush River Road
Columbia, SC 29210
Donate via Paypal. 
You can send money to friends and family and you won't be charged fees. 
Our paypal email is coryandjoy@gmail.com
Prayer
Adoption is no small task. 
We are opening our hearts and leaving them wide open to many people who we don't know at all. 
Pray for A & E's hearts to remain undamaged in this initial process.
We all know of failed adoptions, and we are speaking specifically against anything the Lord would not want or seek for our family. We know He has the perfect baby and the perfect scenario for us. We just want to walk uprightly through it from beginning to end. 
Pray for our Birth Mom. She's carrying a life. A life she will willingly entrust to us for the rest of that babies days. 
Pray for our babies health. Pray that wholeness is being spoken into his/her life right now. 

TIMELINE 
Where are you in the process?
December: We made our decision to officially begin the adoption process
January: We spoke with Christian Adoption Consultants and got the Adoption Agreement in hand
February: We signed official documents, told our children, family and church about Baby H
March 6: We had our first home study visit with Night Light Adoption Agency
April 17: Home Study is completed and Approved. 
April 22: Profile from Christian Adoption Consultants is Complete
In Process: Our Profile goes out to expectant Moms and Birth Mom chooses us
To Be Announced:  We choose to accept the Birth Mom's choice
To Be Announced: Baby's Due Date
To Be Announced: BABY IS AT HOME WITH US!!!

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Real Deal

I want to be transparent on this journey.

My mind swims as I read situation after situation of birth moms who are choosing to give their child life. Today, my heart aches. It literally aches. The tears are hot in the corners of my eyes. I pray at work that no one looks me straight in the eye. My heart is breaking. I see papers with a name of a mom who is carrying a baby to term. Only to give someone like us the opportunity to love, raise and parent the child she has carried. The baby she has felt move in her stomach when she is trying to sleep. The baby who might kick her in the ribs when they need more room. The baby who she has got to reach down and rub for months. The baby who gets the hiccups at the oddest of hours. The baby she has most likely seen the face of on an ultrasound. The baby who she will soon her it's first cry.

I read a situation last week where Mom found out at 24 weeks she was pregnant. When she was told the news, she was going to have an abortion. But she was too far along. So, she is choosing to let someone adopt her sweet baby. I wept over her. For her honesty. For Gods timing. For this baby who she is choosing to gift to someone. For this life that will now be breathing the same air as us. For this child who will live. Mom's name will forever be on my lips in prayer.

Will you join with us as we journey this out?
You see, it's not just "getting a baby".
It's "giving a life".
A life to a child who might otherwise end up an orphan.
Or worse yet, might not be given the chance to live.

We wrote the following paragraph in the closing of our profile that each Mom will see as she carefully makes some huge decisions:

"We will speak honorably of you in our home and to our child. We pray for you, birth mother, often. Each night our children lay down with us to pray, please know we are already lifting you and this baby up to the Lord. We are praying safety and health. We are praying for you to believe in us, to trust us to walk this life with this child. And we will continue to pray for you and speak of you over the years both privately and publicly. We will let our child know that he/she is adopted and loved, but that adoption simply means they were “chosen”. Chosen by you to allow us into their lives. Chosen by us to love and raise them the best we know how. It will be our honor to love and raise this precious gift."

Will you whisper prayers for the Birth Moms who I am discovering are all around us. The brave women who choose life for their babies. And then they make an even greater sacrifice after birth and let someone pick up the torch and run the rest of the race. 

#bringhomebabyhenderson

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Whispered Prayers

We had planned at our kitchen table all the logistics a month beforehand. 
Tents. 
Fanny Packs. 
Donuts. 
Colorful signs. 
Refreshments. 
Unloading crew. 
Tear down crew. 

My husband and I had traveled from Sandhills to Gilbert 
picking loads of items up and squeezing them in our trucks. 
For weeks. 
(Let's just say, he might have wanted to say some choice words to me. 
I don't know. Well, I do know. He ain't a yard sale person, y'all).

Then the weather man began to crush our hopes. 
100% chance of rain. 
ON the day of the sale. 

You see, deep down, I had whispered the amount $2,000 in my heart. 
But my mind kept saying "$1,000 is good." 
And the rain just sealed the deal for me. 
Maybbeeeee we would squeeze out $1,000.
Heck, it's $1000 more than we started with. 

But as I looked around a few Saturday mornings ago, I saw such determination. 
Determination from the students from our churches discipleship school. 
They were hustling before I even got there. 
They were dragging out tables, rolling out garment racks, sorting items, 
strolling out baby equipment. 
Determination from my circle, my village, my friends. 
They were wearing their fanny packs and making change. 
They were giving out prices and bringing in the money. 
Answering random question, after random question.  
Sorting things to make the chaos look better after people had rifled through stuff.
Wiping the rain and the sweat off and pushing through.  
Determination from you sweet people who showed up to buy things. 
Some of you at 5am, you crazy animals! 
A few of you told us we were selling things too low and 
would just hand us the extra money they had planned to spend. 
Determination from the adoptive friends who had connected locally through social media. 
Who stopped by to support this new-to-the-adoption world Momma
All. In. The. Rain.  

It was a lot of work, sweat and grossness by the end of that weekend. 
But you all renewed my hope in the goodness of this world. 
We all want to tangibly touch something good. 
We want to be a part. 
And The Henderson's wanted to thank each of you for giving of 
your kids toys and bikes, offering us your couches and lamps, 
bunk beds and kitchen tables, 
old story books and new in the package products. 
Thank you to those who worked. 
Those who wore sweat stains for days. 
Those who bought so that we could have.  

You sweet folks helped us add $2018 to the #bringhomebabyhenderson fund. 
I cannot believe I ever had a doubt! 

"For let us not grow weary of doing good, 
for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." 
Galatians 6:9

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Adoption Auction Sneak Peek


Our Instagram Adoption Auction is happening this Wednesday & Thursday!! 

But I just couldn't wait until tomorrow.

I had to share a sneak peek at some of the shops you'll see in the auction. 
Do some window shopping and get ready to bid! 
Thank you in advance for being a part of this fundraiser for growing our family!! 
Bidding will start as soon as items are posted on Wednesday, April 15th at 9AM EST. 
Bidding will close promptly at 9PM EST on Thursday, April 16th.

Read to the bottom of this post for how to win a TARGET GIFT CARD!!!! 
@nspottery

@white_peach_shop

@naptimediaries

@loriwilhite

@michellemyers

@crosstrainingcouture

@mrstiffanycooper

@melodyjoydesigns

@lpattis 

@albionfit

@molliedyan

@wanderinglovely

@deaira_robbins

@somethingbeautifulshop

@lrobbins11

@campmoxie

@jenniferjacobson

@keeferstylecreations2225

@littlegypsyfinery

@megshull

@mommainpearls

@jessiesavanna

@leighhl

@tbcknoxville

@dunnecrew

@mommacone1

@kelsbomb21

@kmatwood

@mommapolk

@wynneelder

@madeonacornhill


Share either of these images on IG 
between now and April 16th at 9pm est, 
using the hashtag #bringhomebabyhenderson 
and you'll be entered to win a $25 Target gift card.







Thursday, April 2, 2015

April Showers .... Bring May Babies ... Maybe

Overloaded yet?
Yeah, me too J
But, let’s make a deal.
I’ll bombard you for the whole month of April.
We get a baby in record time.
And I leave you alone. Deal? Deal!

You know ... except for all the parts where I’m gonna need your help with the diapering and the bathing and sitting of “said baby” from time to time!

(And don’t be fooled, I really won’t leave you alone until baby is in our arms and we have raised all the funds necessary: one way or another!)

So, let's be honest and open with each other. 
Here’s what happening. 
And here’s why my head, and yours, might explode. 
(And if you are simply over seeing our awesome posts, simply get rid of me from all your social media platforms quietly ... so I don’t cry myself to sleep!)

Let's make April HUGE. Here's the details you need to know: 

April 1st – April 30th : 
Shirt Campaign www.bringhomebabyhenderson.bigcartel.com #bringhomebabyhenderson is on the back collar. You want one. Trust me. 

April 11th: 
Twenty Family Yard Sale : 7am-1pm : 2700 Bush River Road, Columbia : Donate your time, muscles or items. We will need help the day before and day of with LOTS of jobs. 

April 15th-16th
Instagram Auction : Follow me at @onejoy : I promise you will WANT to get these items : You have one more week to donate any items from you or your small business : 100% proceeds go to little babe.

April 26th
Mommy & Me Stella & Dot Trunk Show : 5:30-7:30: Pro Photographer and Everything : Ask me if you want an invitation & haven't got one yet : coryandjoy@gmail.com

All Month: 
Scentsy: http://scentsbysavannah.scentsy.us Select Bring Home Baby Henderson : For every $100 ordered, we get $25 PLUS 20% total commission. Come on y'all, make your house smell good AND help us out. 


In May:
There will be a benefit dinner and silent auction. Location, Date, and Time TBA. My peeps are on it. 

Ongoing: 
www.gofundme.com/coryandjoy
Mail donations to: ATTN: Cory Henderson : 2700 Bush River Road, Columbia, SC 29210

Thursday, March 12, 2015

FAQ.

Frequently Asked Questions

WHERE 
Where are you adopting from?
We are doing a domestic adoption, so our birth mom could be from anywhere in the US. 

WHEN
When will you have Baby Henderson?
The average time our agency says is 6-10 months. 
We are praying for a baby by the end of summer! 

COST
How much does adoption cost?
Our financial needs for this adoption will be around $40,000. 
This is a lot of money to raise fast! 
This is a quick adoption process and we have to raise all of our funds to bring our baby home! 
Please consider helping our family in any way you can. 
Read a blog from our consultant here in regards to adoption costs. 

HOW
How can I help? 
Send money via Paypal. 
You can send money to friends and family and you won't be charged fees. 
Our paypal email is coryandjoy@gmail.com
Donate a product. 
We will be holding an Instagram auction in April to raise money. 
If you own a business, have a great product, gift cards or services,  
please email coryandjoy@gmail.com.  
Send a check. 
(Please make checks payable to Cory or Joy Henderson) 
Cory Henderson
2700 Bush River Road
Columbia, SC 29210
Go Fund Me
This is just a simple and easy site to donate. 
www.gofundme.com/coryandjoy
This is actually where we will keep our entire donations updated, whether online or off. 
Donate Household Items or Your Time
We will be holding a huge yard sale on April 4th in our church parking lot. 
We could use any nice or gently used items you have to donate. 
We would appreciate your time the day before the sale to organize or tag things.
We will also need major help the day of the sale. 
Prayer
Adoption is no small task. 
We are opening our hearts and leaving them wide open to many people who we don't know at all. 
Pray for A & E's hearts to remain undamaged in this initial process.
We all know of failed adoptions, and we are speaking specifically against anything the Lord would not want or seek for our family. We know He has the perfect baby and the perfect scenario for us. We just want to walk uprightly through it from beginning to end. 
Pray for our Birth Mom. She's carrying a life. A life she will willingly entrust to us for the rest of that babies days. 
Pray for our babies health. Pray that wholeness is being spoken into his/her life right now. 

TIMELINE 
Where are you in the process?
December: We made our decision to officially begin the adoption process
January: We spoke with Christian Adoption Consultants and got the Adoption Agreement in hand
February: We signed official documents, told our children, family and church about Baby H
March 6: We had our first home study visit with Night Light Adoption Agency
To Be Announced: Home Study is completed and Approved. 
To Be Announced: Profile from Christian Adoption Consultants is Complete
To Be Announced: Our Profile goes out to expectant Moms and Birth Mom chooses us
To Be Announced:  We choose to accept the Birth Mom
To Be Announced: BABY IS ON THE WAY