Friday, November 13, 2015

The Last Leg : Pick A Sticky

As most of you know, our sweet Ella is here!

Her birth story and journey to us is not anything we expected or could have imagined.

But it was perfect.

There is so much to share. And there are some details that will be hers to keep.

But the beautiful ending is that she is now and forever a Henderson :)

I can't wait until we can get clearance to come and get into a routine! And so that we can sit down and divulge all the sweet details of our girl!

Until then, we would like to ask you for one last push.


Since our sweet girl was unexpected in the most beautiful way, we had not finished raising all of the funds needed for the entire adoption process.

We have a remaining $8500 to finalize the adoption.

Here's how you can help ....

We have numbers on a sticky 1 - 150. And we are asking that you pick and number and donate that number amount. When you choose a number, the sticky comes off the wall. You can donate a few ways: Paypal by choosing "donate to friends and family" and using the email OR you can donate at

With each donation, please send us your mailing address. We have a self addressed note we want to mail to you. This will be a short note for you to write to our Ella. We feel like your words will speak life to her one day and she will know how much she was loved and prayed for!

We love you all and cannot thank you enough for your love, prayers and support the entire way through this!

Saturday, August 29, 2015

What Was He Thinking

I remember sitting down at LongHorn last December as we opened up the floodgates about adoption.

I guess it was a total "lay it all on the table" day.

Because, as if the decision to officially enter into adoption wasn't enough, my sweet husband had one more thing he wanted to share heart about.

You see, for years he has wanted to go back to school. Like, school, school.

So, now here we are in September.
And my amazing husband has tackled three semesters of classes at Liberty University this year.
He also attended a week long "Intensive" at the LU campus back in May.
And just this week he started a new semester of classes.

I tell him he's all his teachers favorite. I think more often than not, he's the highest grade in the class. I giggle at him, because he doesn't just want to "wing it", he wants it to be the best it can be. SO, even after 14 years of preaching and teaching, he'll mull over a paper for hours before he turns it in. It's funny. And cute. (Oh yeah, and sometimes a teeny-weeny bit annoying. I wanna scream "It was great the first draft! Just hit submit!")

Our Autumn started high school this year. So, when we found out she had a math class during first semester, my husband decided he would take a math course this semester too. It's kinda cool they get to do that together!

So, while some days I wanna say "What were you THINKING??????"
More times than not, I'm more than willing to shush the kids for an hour while he studies. Or drag them to Publix so that the house is quiet. Or read his paper and give him my thoughts.

Sometimes it's not about what makes sense. It's about what's in your heart, and you go for it!
I'm thankful for a husband who has determination and heart to go after what he feels called to.

Here's to some more crazy wild months ahead!

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Yeti Cooler : Adoption Giveaway (Completed)

WINNER: Ticket #214253
Kaycee Sites
Watch the Announcement Video Here:

Who doesn’t love a YETI cooler?
And even better than that, who doesn’t love a SPECIAL EDITION SEAFOAM YETI
that you can NO LONGER PURCHASE!!!
(I call it more MINT, but what do I know?!)
This 20 qt Roadie YETI cooler retails for $249.99.
Seriously, I myself do not even own a YETI cooler and had my eye on this one for months.
Now is your chance to put your name in the hat to own it yourself!

So, here’s how the Giveaway is going to go!
Each entry to the giveaway costs $5 and can be paid for using the
Paypal Button on the sidebar on our blog.
{Once you have made your donations, email me at and
tell me how many entries you paid for, including your name and mailing address}
You  may purchase tickets in person if you do not have a PayPal account.
Here is an example of what your email would look like:
Kelly Kapowski, 111 Awesome Drive, Columbia, SC 29210 
$50 (10 entries)
 I will email your donation specific number within 24-48 hours of receiving your donation.
Giveaway is open from TODAY-August 7th at noon/EST.
A winner will be drawn and announced by video on the evening of August 7th!
All profits from this giveaway will go directly towards bringing home our sweet miracle.  
*This is open to US shipping only*

Other ways to connect with us:
Instagram: @onejoy
Twitter: @coryandjoy

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Matching Grant

I have been having a rough few weeks emotionally. 
The "situations" of birth mothers have slowed down, almost to a standstill. 
I often go up to the room we have converted to baby H's room and just stand and look. 
I see the crib we picked out. I see the sweet little baby girl and baby boy shoe's that we placed inside the crib during the "wait". 
I want to take A & E shopping so they can get the baby something and connect deeper. 
I've been growing a little impatient, and honestly a little irritated, every week that passes and we are another week further into the process and still waiting.

Then last week, a few people stopped and looked me in the eyes. 
You know, the ones who can read you well. 
And they asked how I was doing. 
It was good to express that some hope has felt lost. 
That I never knew the ups & downs of this journey. 
I didn't think we would be the ones who would be stuck in the "wait". 

Then during the course of the rest of the week, I got multiple random texts from people I love dearly. 
I almost wanted to say "Did my husband tell you to text me?" But I knew that even though that's something he would do, this was the Lord. 

One in particular was my sweet friend & fellow pastor wife, Jenny. She texted me while I was out of town for work last week and asked if could FaceTime for a minute. When I did, I got the pleasure of seeing her living room filled with her middle school girls who were preparing a drive-thru coffee & baked goods fundraiser for us. 
People they have never met. 
A baby they can't tangibly see. 
A lady that their sweet pastors wife simply asked them to love on. 
And I fell to pieces after I facetimed and realized that this is SO much bigger that me! 
These girls are BEING the gospel. 
I mean, seriously, how sweet are they?! 

Within almost an hour of facetiming this middle school small group, my husband sent me a text that said "So we got a $5000 match?" Now, I was at a work event and wasn't on my email much that day, so I hadn't received the news yet! 

Isn't it just like the Lord to take my mully grubbing, loathing and doubting self ... and turn it into a small group of middle school world changers, a phone filled with encouraging texts, friends speaking life to me, and an organization approving us for a $5,000 match?!!!! 

I know that we don't have a birth mom or baby in sight. 
Literally, it feel like a million months away. 
But I am trusting that He is working ALL things for the good of our family. 
Because we love Him. 
And we entered this process trusting. 
And that's how we will walk through it. 
And that's how we will finish it!

Regarding the Matching Grant: 
Hand In Hand Christian Adoption, Inc has approved us for a matching grant up to $5000. 
All donations through this grant are tax deductible. 
If we are so blessed to get over the $5,000, the donations will still be tax deductible for you and we are able to accept donations all way until July 28th, 2015. 
** Checks cannot be made out to us. 
They must be made out to Hand In Hand Christian Adoption** 
The envelope must be addressed this specific way, in order for us to get credit. 

Hand In Hand Christian Adoptions, Inc
James Cory & Joy Henderson
18318 Mimosa Court
Gardner, KS 66030

No gift is too small. Every donation will be dollar for dollar matched! Please pray about giving and helping us to be a step closer to bringing home the perfect baby for us. 

Feel free to call or email with any questions that you have. We would be more than happy to talk to you :) 

-Cory, Joy, Autumn, Easton

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

FAQ. Updated.

Frequently Asked Questions

Where are you adopting from?
We are doing a domestic adoption, so our birth mom could be from anywhere in the US.
Most situations we have seen have been from Florida though. 
Go figure :)  

When will you have Baby Henderson?
The average time our agency says is 6-10 months. 
We officially began in February, 
so we are praying for a baby by the end of summer! 

How much does adoption cost?
Our financial needs for this adoption will be around $40,000. 
This is a lot of money to raise fast! 
This is a quick adoption process and we have to raise all 
of our funds before we bring our baby home! 
Please consider helping our family in any way you can. 
Read a blog from our consultant here in regards to adoption costs. 

How can I help? 
Attend An Event.
May 26th
Texas Roadhouse
Ten Percent Tuesday
400 Columbiana Drive
10% of your entire bill will go to #bringhomebabyhenderson
*Get a flier from us before or that night at the event *
May 29th 
Bingo, Team Trivia & Silent Auction 
2700 Bush River Road 
Columbia, SC 29210
Bingo from 5-7 $1 a card. Winner of each round will go into a drawing for a Flat Panel TV. 
Team Trivia: 7-9 $10 person/ 4 people per team / 10 Rounds. Winners get Best Buy Gift Cards
Silent Auction: 6-8 going on simultaneously to Games in Foyer. Winners announced at 8PM .
May T-Shirt Campaign
100% of proceeds from our Big Cartel Shop goes straight into the adoption fund. 
We would like someone from each state representing us by wearing our 
#Bringhomebabyhenderson shirts designed specifically for us.
Go Fund Me
This is just a simple and easy site to donate. 
This is actually where we will keep our entire donations updated, whether online or off. 
Send a check. 
(Please make checks payable to Cory or Joy Henderson) 
Cory Henderson
2700 Bush River Road
Columbia, SC 29210
Donate via Paypal. 
You can send money to friends and family and you won't be charged fees. 
Our paypal email is
Adoption is no small task. 
We are opening our hearts and leaving them wide open to many people who we don't know at all. 
Pray for A & E's hearts to remain undamaged in this initial process.
We all know of failed adoptions, and we are speaking specifically against anything the Lord would not want or seek for our family. We know He has the perfect baby and the perfect scenario for us. We just want to walk uprightly through it from beginning to end. 
Pray for our Birth Mom. She's carrying a life. A life she will willingly entrust to us for the rest of that babies days. 
Pray for our babies health. Pray that wholeness is being spoken into his/her life right now. 

Where are you in the process?
December: We made our decision to officially begin the adoption process
January: We spoke with Christian Adoption Consultants and got the Adoption Agreement in hand
February: We signed official documents, told our children, family and church about Baby H
March 6: We had our first home study visit with Night Light Adoption Agency
April 17: Home Study is completed and Approved. 
April 22: Profile from Christian Adoption Consultants is Complete
In Process: Our Profile goes out to expectant Moms and Birth Mom chooses us
To Be Announced:  We choose to accept the Birth Mom's choice
To Be Announced: Baby's Due Date
To Be Announced: BABY IS AT HOME WITH US!!!

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

The Real Deal

I want to be transparent on this journey.

My mind swims as I read situation after situation of birth moms who are choosing to give their child life. Today, my heart aches. It literally aches. The tears are hot in the corners of my eyes. I pray at work that no one looks me straight in the eye. My heart is breaking. I see papers with a name of a mom who is carrying a baby to term. Only to give someone like us the opportunity to love, raise and parent the child she has carried. The baby she has felt move in her stomach when she is trying to sleep. The baby who might kick her in the ribs when they need more room. The baby who she has got to reach down and rub for months. The baby who gets the hiccups at the oddest of hours. The baby she has most likely seen the face of on an ultrasound. The baby who she will soon her it's first cry.

I read a situation last week where Mom found out at 24 weeks she was pregnant. When she was told the news, she was going to have an abortion. But she was too far along. So, she is choosing to let someone adopt her sweet baby. I wept over her. For her honesty. For Gods timing. For this baby who she is choosing to gift to someone. For this life that will now be breathing the same air as us. For this child who will live. Mom's name will forever be on my lips in prayer.

Will you join with us as we journey this out?
You see, it's not just "getting a baby".
It's "giving a life".
A life to a child who might otherwise end up an orphan.
Or worse yet, might not be given the chance to live.

We wrote the following paragraph in the closing of our profile that each Mom will see as she carefully makes some huge decisions:

"We will speak honorably of you in our home and to our child. We pray for you, birth mother, often. Each night our children lay down with us to pray, please know we are already lifting you and this baby up to the Lord. We are praying safety and health. We are praying for you to believe in us, to trust us to walk this life with this child. And we will continue to pray for you and speak of you over the years both privately and publicly. We will let our child know that he/she is adopted and loved, but that adoption simply means they were “chosen”. Chosen by you to allow us into their lives. Chosen by us to love and raise them the best we know how. It will be our honor to love and raise this precious gift."

Will you whisper prayers for the Birth Moms who I am discovering are all around us. The brave women who choose life for their babies. And then they make an even greater sacrifice after birth and let someone pick up the torch and run the rest of the race. 


Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Whispered Prayers

We had planned at our kitchen table all the logistics a month beforehand. 
Fanny Packs. 
Colorful signs. 
Unloading crew. 
Tear down crew. 

My husband and I had traveled from Sandhills to Gilbert 
picking loads of items up and squeezing them in our trucks. 
For weeks. 
(Let's just say, he might have wanted to say some choice words to me. 
I don't know. Well, I do know. He ain't a yard sale person, y'all).

Then the weather man began to crush our hopes. 
100% chance of rain. 
ON the day of the sale. 

You see, deep down, I had whispered the amount $2,000 in my heart. 
But my mind kept saying "$1,000 is good." 
And the rain just sealed the deal for me. 
Maybbeeeee we would squeeze out $1,000.
Heck, it's $1000 more than we started with. 

But as I looked around a few Saturday mornings ago, I saw such determination. 
Determination from the students from our churches discipleship school. 
They were hustling before I even got there. 
They were dragging out tables, rolling out garment racks, sorting items, 
strolling out baby equipment. 
Determination from my circle, my village, my friends. 
They were wearing their fanny packs and making change. 
They were giving out prices and bringing in the money. 
Answering random question, after random question.  
Sorting things to make the chaos look better after people had rifled through stuff.
Wiping the rain and the sweat off and pushing through.  
Determination from you sweet people who showed up to buy things. 
Some of you at 5am, you crazy animals! 
A few of you told us we were selling things too low and 
would just hand us the extra money they had planned to spend. 
Determination from the adoptive friends who had connected locally through social media. 
Who stopped by to support this new-to-the-adoption world Momma
All. In. The. Rain.  

It was a lot of work, sweat and grossness by the end of that weekend. 
But you all renewed my hope in the goodness of this world. 
We all want to tangibly touch something good. 
We want to be a part. 
And The Henderson's wanted to thank each of you for giving of 
your kids toys and bikes, offering us your couches and lamps, 
bunk beds and kitchen tables, 
old story books and new in the package products. 
Thank you to those who worked. 
Those who wore sweat stains for days. 
Those who bought so that we could have.  

You sweet folks helped us add $2018 to the #bringhomebabyhenderson fund. 
I cannot believe I ever had a doubt! 

"For let us not grow weary of doing good, 
for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." 
Galatians 6:9